I know this may sound silly to blog about but you really have to have sex to get pregnant, duh. Unfortunately, when it comes to trying to get pregnant after months of no success, it can turn into work. No suprise here but there really isn’t anything sexy about checking your temperature daily or checking the consistency of your cervical mucus and doing all the other things you do to track your cycles. It isn’t unusual for couples that I see to share with me that they stopped having sex because it just turned into work and the most common reason for not having sex is stress. If your sex-life is suffering or non-existent you can pretty much count on not giving yourself the best chance of pregnancy each and every month. So do yourself a favor and see what you can do to improve your sex life. I tell all my patients that I want nothing more but for them to get pregnant at home. The picture above may be what your bed is like at night: one or both of you on your laptops and maybe even with the TV on.
A variety of physiological and psychological factors can impact your libido. Check out these common sex-drive killers.
Sex-Drive Killer: Stress
You may be the kind of person who does many things well when under stress. But feeling sexy isn’t likely to be one of them. Job stress, money troubles, caring for a sick family member, and other stressors can decrease libido. To keep your stress levels in check, learn helpful stress management techniques or seek the advice of a counselor or doctor.
Sex-Drive Killer: Unresolved Issues
Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive. For women in particular, emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire. Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal of trust, and other barriers to intimacy can steer your sex drive off the road.
Sex Drive Killer: Poor Body Image
It’s hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. For example, feeling ashamed of being too heavy (even if you’re not) will douse your love light. If your partner has these feelings, it can really help to reassure him or her that you still find him/her sexy. And there’s a flip side to the equation: Working out not only enhances your self-esteem, but also ups your sex drive.
Sex-Drive Killer: Obesity
Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual performance. The reason isn’t clear, but may be linked to self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, social stigma, and other psychological issues.
Sex-Drive Killer: Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a different kind of sexual disorder than loss of libido (a medical term for loss of sex drive). But men with ED worry about how they will be able to perform sexually. And that worry can drain their sex drive.
Sex-Drive Killer: Low T
Testosterone increases sex drive. As men age, their testosterone levels may decline slightly. Not all men lose the desire for sex when their testosterone levels drop — but many do. Testosterone is linked to sex drive in women, too. But a woman’s hormonal balance is more complex than a man’s. It’s not clear whether testosterone therapy is as safe and effective in boosting sex drive for women as it is for men.
Sex-Drive Killer: Depression
It doesn’t seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive — and so does depression. But if your sex drive has drooped, is might be a sign that you’re depressed. Clinical depression is a serious, but treatable condition.
Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little Intimacy
Sex without intimacy is a sex-drive killer. Intimacy isn’t just a code word for sex. If your sex life is in neutral, try spending more non-sexual intimate time together – alone. Talk, snuggle, trade massages. Learn to express affection without having to have sex. As intimacy builds, so does sex drive.
As always, I hope this helps