Requests for gender selection are not uncommon. What does this involve? It usually involves IVF. The embryos are then biopsied in order to determine whether the embryo is a girl embryo or a boy embryo (this procedure is called PGD or preimplantation genetic diagnosis). This is what you should ask yourself:
- What will you do if all of your embryos are boy embryos when you wanted a girl? Would you still go through with a transfer? Will you discard the embryos? Will you freeze your embryos? Will you consider donating your embryos?
- What if you’re older and all your embryos are boy embryos but 1 of them – and you wanted a girl? Will you only transfer the single girl embryo, knowing your pregnancy chances are lower or will your transfer a girl embryo with a boy embryo?
- What if you do everything that you’re doing and don’t have normal embryos? How will you feel?
- How are you going to feel if you do all the work that you’re doing and don’t get pregnant? Can you deal with this loss both emotionally and financially?
- Does your doctor have a policy of not transferring the “wrong gender” embryos when you choose to do IVF for the gender of choice? You should know this up front.
I think it’s very important for you to have answers to the questions above before doing IVF for gender selection. The above scenarios could happen to you. Please ask yourself the 5 questions above before moving forward.